Good Advice

This is borrowed from Race Coopers Blog ( http://racecooperxxx.blogspot.com/?zx=e14c3ca87e904ad8 )  I think this is great advice for anyone in the business...

Dear Race,

Hey... I have a question and I was wondering if you can tell me what you think. I've had a few blog posting comments sent to me from some people, and I've read a few on my own and I'm noticing more and more how people are ripping me apart on these blogs and forums. I'm getting some good feedback, but other times I'm seeing people being complete dicks and criticizing me for everything. Is this normal? Has the same thing happened to you in the past? I'm trying not to take it personally, but I can't help but wonder if this is reflective of something I am doing (or not doing) in the scenes I have done. What do you think?

LV


Dear LV,

I'm afraid to say it's very normal, unfortunately. Blame it on the anonymity of the internet, whatever. It's the double-edged sword from being in the industry. Fans will put you on a pedestal and treat you like a god, others will make snarky disgusting comments that they would never do to someone, face to face. You have to take all comments, the good and the bad, with a grain of salt. Don't waste too much time listening to any of it. Say thank you for the good comments, ignore the insults. There's nothing worse that you can do (for your porn career), but to answer back on some piss-ant fucker who writes bile, just to see their words in print. You can never win an online war... so the best thing to do is just ignore them. Otherwise they know they've gotten to you, and it helps promote and elevate them, and their useless and hate filled vitriol even more.

It happened to me a great deal, when I first began.... Not as much anymore. Once people notice you have a thick skin, they seem to give up. This has absolutely nothing to do with you, or what you are doing. Let me make that clear. It's really just... sour grapes. Don't write about or reply to comments. Don't bring anymore attention to them. It's their 15 minutes, and it's sadly all they have. Listen to your friends, they know you more than anybody.... and they'll probably say, that you're doing a great job, and are nothing short of fabulous. :)

 

"Borrowed" From "The Gate Keeper's Blog"

Taken from "The Gate Keeper's Blog"








He has a good job. He is athletic and health oriented. He is the boy next door. He live right outside of one of the largest and gayest cities in the world or a small island like mine. He has awesome family and friends.






Oh, and he happens to have HIV.






Because of the latter, all the other traits he can bring to the table seem not to matter when it comes to dating. He has tried HIV dating Web sites and social events but has been unsuccessful. Since his status does not define him and he is not limiting himself to just HIV+ guys and he is open to dating anyone who fits into what he is looking for in a man, when HIV isn't a death sentence anymore...






My question is how does such a man deal with HIV stigma and dating without giving up hope?

What Sets Us Apart From All The Rest!

You guys know I like to share comments from other websites. Here's a convo I had last night with a dude from Adam4Adam.



Them - Just wanted to say I LOVE you guys, didn't know you were florida local!

 Us - wow, thanks man!


Them - You're both VERY attractive and seem like guys who'd be fun to go out for a bite or a drink with, maybe some day I'll get to bump into you guys and gush in person! By the way you have some fans on this website I go to called Bara! Hope you guys are doing great :).


Us - thanks man, we get out some. its funny you mentioned the blog bara, we've noticed some traffic coming for that site and was wondering who it belong too. never found out, but with the luv they give us we went a head and added a link for them off our blog


Them - That's awesome :). You guys seem sweet, I'm glad to see guys who aren't absorbed into their fame that they don't talk to their "fans" haha. It was good talking to you, looking forward to talking more in the future :).


 We love shit like this man and we have always felt this is what sets us apart from all the rest. We keeps it real and really do enjoy speaking to Fans and Supporters

Showing Love with the Orlando Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence

Happy 4th of July!!...I wanna take a min to show a awsome group of individuals Love on the blog, The Orlando Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.  Rick and I had to honor of meeting the sisters Saturday night at the Parliament House here in Orlando.  Not to mention the one and only Prince Poppycock was in the house, and did a great show that night.  Here are some of the pics from that great night of fun and laughter!

YES! ,we do fight........But LOVE conquers all!!!

A few close friends may know that.....Rick and I , have been going to blows the past 2 days, and damn what a fight that was......But, I am to blame for a big part of it.  I am extremely bull headed dude, and I DON'T take care of myself as I should.  Now let me make sure i'm clear when I say "take care of myself"....we not talking knowing your status and shit like that, I'm talking medication to keep me breathing another day like blood pressure, cholesterol, and CPAP machine at night.  I have had several medical issues in the past and no one has been there for me more that Hub, to the point were i thought i had my own personal nurse, to tell me OK take your meds or use your machine..I'm a grown ass man, he shouldn't have to ride me like that.  Now this may seem like i;m coming down hard on myself but it was putting a strain on our relationship.  Hub used to be a E.R. nurse and i simply got used to him doctoring me when i know better and shoulda been doctoring my damn self , that's just one less thing he has to worry about, aside from the website that he has spent 100's of hours doing and has done a DAMN good job doing!  I know i have said this before and we have truly  been through allot of shit together were he has stuck by me through it all ,as to were someone else would have said fuck this, deuces holla at me when you get all this ironed out.  I'm not gonna go into detail on that particular issue, a good friend pointed something out to me today that, that should not be talked about...Good looking out T!........We BOTH crazy as hell! and have some things we need to work on but who better to work on it with than ya crazy ass husband!...LOL. ....We love each other men, neither one of us is going anywhere, but we really must learn to control our anger and think in matters like this. What we went through made us even stronger and deeper in love for one another.  I want to thank the people who fought  for us to hold on to our love, words of encouragement and most of all your friendship, I will not name any names but you definitely know who you are, much love and respect to you from the both of us.


Pito

New Management

Rick Talons is no long associated with STM.  This Blog and the Website will now be run by Pito Savage

Credibility of the Blog

I really take pride in this blog, Pito and I have worked hard at keep facts straight and credibility solid.  I have now had to remove 2 post from this blog and I just hate it.  One post was "pito in chains" that post was removed because we prematurely posted the release of a video that we decided to scrap, another one was today when I didn't get a name right.  I tried to change the name but it still showed up in the Google Search Engines so I had no choice but to delet it.  This makes me very sad that I had to do this, but at the end of the day the error was mine.  I will not repost either post just do to the fact that we have worked hard on the Brand and I don't want it ruined with this type of stuff.  I will do better in the future - not saying I wont make mistakes, but I will not delete anymore post off the blog.


My apology to the fans and most of all to who's name I miss quoted.


Also while we are here.  Been gettting a few of you putting your emails in the comment section, I strongly urge you not to do this as this blog recieves severl hits (10,000 last month alone).  Personally if it were me I wouldn't want my personal email address out there like that.  If you would like to contact us directly we have a business email we ask you to use, the links are everywhere but just in case you are unable to find it please contact us here at this address.


contactus@savagetalonsmedia.com   this is our official email address for you the fans to use.


as always we want to thank you so much for your continued support with the blog and the website.


Much Luv
Rick Talons and Pito Savage